What’s your business and where is it?
I’m a mediator and conflict coach working mostly in divorce and custody. My business is Progressive Conflict Solutions, located in Media, PA - the heart of Delaware County.
What motivates you to make divorce more healthy?
I’m divorced myself and have had 50-50 custody of my two sons, now 15 and 17, for 11 years. Seeing how well my family transitioned after divorce, people often approached me to ask about how I managed to have a “good divorce” and co-parent so successfully.
I’d been working in the corporate world at the time managing big teams and large projects and I was the go-to person for managing conflicts and challenging transitions. Five years ago, the time was ripe to jump the corporate ship and take my informal conflict resolution skills and make them into my primary gig. I actively pursued loads of mediation and coaching training and opened my mediation practice three years ago. As a mediator, my first job is to help others reach their goals. When all things line up, that also lets me reach mine: to help families transition from their dysfunctional marriage to a functional and healthy co-parenting state, and to assist individuals transitioning from marriage to single life in attaining the best financial well-being and most positive outlook possible. Too many people hang on to bitterness and pain after their divorce. I love helping adults and children make a better, healthier post-divorce transition.
Why did you decide to sponsor and help organized the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium?
I’d been attending the Philadelphia Professionals Committed to Respectful Divorce Meet-up group for a while and really liked the energy, outlook and all the wonderful business contacts I’d made. When Sharon proposed organizing a symposium, I loved the idea. As the group gathered, I was wowed by the enthusiasm and focus. Sharon asked me to take a leadership role and the timing was perfect since I’d just rotated off a three-year stint on the Board of the Pennsylvania Council of Mediators. I love the vision and drive our symposium organizers bring to the table and look forward to the resulting program in November. It also feels great to have a growing and more cohesive tribe of professionals who share a focus on helping people make a better divorce transition. The November event should expand that tribe and maybe even win some converts.
What do you hope to take away from the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium?
I feel a bit like a sous chef joining with a great culinary team making an exquisite feast. I get to appreciate all the fabulous fresh ingredients, help stir the pot and pick the seasonings (I assure you this soup does NOT have too many cooks!), and I even get to partake in the fabulous finished product. When I sit at that feast on November 15th, I hope to devour fabulous information about how people are currently practicing to help advance healthy divorces, how to shape my practice to be more effective, and get additional resources I can share with my clients to help them in their journey -- all with a generous dash of inspiration! I’m also looking forward to adding new like-minded contacts to my professional network. And my dream dessert: knowing that we are part of a larger cultural shift that takes much of the shame, anger and stigma out of divorce and helps families grow better, stronger, and healthier in the process.
Want to learn who else is making divorce healthier and how are they doing it? Next up: Henry Yampolsky of Yampolsky Law -- Tag! You're it!
Are you a changemaker?
The future of divorce is now in session. Join us on November 15th as we embark together at Make Divorce Healthier Symposium.
Ellen Morfei is a Gold Sponsor of the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium and a member of the Executive and Marketing Committees. Through Progressive Conflict Solutions, Ellen offers custom services to resolve conflicts in a productive manner while building conflict resolution skills for individuals, families, community organizations, and small businesses. Services include mediation, conflict coaching, consulting, and workshops. With these services and the skills they promote, clients achieve a greater sense of peace, focus, and competence, which helps them reach their personal and professional goals. Connect with Ellen on LinkedIn.