What is your business and where is it?
I am peacemaker based in Trevose, Pennsylvania. For me being a peacemaker first and foremost means that I do not go to Court. I do, however, serve my clients as a mediator; as a collaborative lawyer; and as a teacher of conflict resolution skills.
As a mediator, I create space for people to have difficult conversations. I do not make decisions as to what those conversations are about or what is their outcome. In my divorce mediation practice, I focus on holding compassionate space for the couple while providing a structure for a constructive, meaningful and productive dialogue.
As a collaborative lawyer, I serve as a legal adviser in family law matters. My role, however, is very different from the traditional family lawyer bulldog, gladiator or shark. First and foremost, I am a member of a collaborative team that includes my collaborative partners - a lawyer for the other side, a neutral coach and a neutral financial professional. All the professionals make an absolute commitment to the peaceful process and agree to withdraw should the matter ever end up in Court. As team members, we empower our clients to engage with each other and to make the decisions that are right for them.
As a teacher of conflict resolution skills, I focus on teaching those I work with on seeing conflict as an opportunity for growth and dialogue. I give my clients tools to Dis-Solve Conflict from Within and to respond to it with presence, clarity and compassion, instead of reacting to conflict with fear, aggression and judgment.
What motivates you to make divorce healthier?
To me, it is about treating people as beings and not things. Divorce can be one of the most difficult and dehumanizing experiences for one to go through. Making divorce healthier means bringing humanity, respect and deep compassion into the process of restructuring a family. And, with those ingredients, a healthy divorce can become an opportunity for growth, healing and respectful dialogue.
Why did you decide to help organize Make Divorce Healthier Symposium?
I became a lawyer to empower people and I believe that healthy divorce methods such as mediation and collaborative practice empower individuals going through a very difficult life experience to make decisions that are right for them and their families. Spreading the word about the healthier approaches to divorce is very important to me. I am immensely grateful for the opportunity to be a part of the amazing team of deeply compassionate, kind and brilliant professionals putting this symposium together.
What do you hope to take away from Make Divorce Healthier Symposium
I am hopeful that this symposium will not only bring together a community of professionals committed to healthier divorce alternatives, but also will start an engaging conversation about the future of divorce.
Want to learn who else is making divorce healthier and how are they doing it? Next up: Julie Terrana of The Davidse Terrana Group at Merrill Lynch -- Tag! You're it!
Are you a changemaker?
The future of divorce is now in session. Join us on November 15th as we embark together at Make Divorce Healthier Symposium.
Henry Yampolsky is a member of the Marketing and Programming Committees of the Make Divorce Healthier Symposium. He is the founder of Yampolsky Law, P.C. - Conflict Transformed a holistic conflict resolution law firm in Trevose, Pennsylvania. Henry Yampolsky is also the co-author of Dis-Solving Conflict from Within, a unique 4-step process of self-inquiry in conflict which enables people to respond to conflict with peace, presence and compassion. And, Henry is also a Registered Yoga Instructor (E-RYT 200) and teaches Sattva Yoga at Siti Dance Studio in Huntingdon Valley.